Female Sensuality & Relationship Health w. Sara Shorten - Embodied Wellness Co. | Episode 07
Feb 13, 2021This Valentines Day weekend special we decided to bring on our first relationship specialist to the show - and it DID NOT disappoint!
On todays podcast we speak with Sara Shorten, a sex, love and relationship coach who is on a mission to help women & couples thrive using mindfulness and tantric inspired practices.
We discuss everything from sensual and sexual health tips and routines, rekindling and exploring your self-love, and relationship wellness!
Sensual and Sexual Health Tips for Morning and Night
1.) As soon as you wake up or before you go to sleep, take a few minutes to breathe deeply into your lower belly. Run your hands along your body, wherever you feel called, to awaken sensation and self adoration.
2.) Consider how you most desire to feel in life. Ask yourself- “Who inside me knows exactly how to embody this?” It could be your inner queen, warrior, goddess, or spirit of love. In the morning, consciously connect to this part of you with your breath and intention. Practice moving throughout your day embodying this empowered identity and making choices from this place. At night, reflect on how this practice went for you, what felt challenging or rewarding about it.
3.) Whether morning or night, ask yourself “how can I get the most pleasure out of this possible?” Perhaps it’s giving yourself more permission to slow down and enjoy the taste of your food, letting pleasure decide what you wear for the day, putting your favourite music on and sinking into it enough to dance, smiling while showering and truly feeling the sensation of the warm water.
These practices lend well to enhancing sex with yourself or another person, because you are awakening your body, your attention to pleasure, and practicing embodying an identity that truly serves you.
Tips for Relationship Wellness
1.) Both you and your partner take time to write “Love Action Lists”- a list of things that communicate love to you in a deep way. It could be having your hair played with, being bought flowers, having house chores done, being checked out when you’re naked, your partner encircling their arms around you from behind and telling you how gorgeous you are. Give yourself permission to be truly honest. Your partner does the same, then you share them with each other and make it a conscious practice to include more of the items on their list in your interactions with them throughout the week. It’s not a competition, but it can create a positive feedback loop where the more you make your partner feel loved, the more they want to return that energy.
2.) Book an allotted amount of time 30-60 minutes, for example) for one of you to give the other a “Spoiling Session” (term coined by Jordan Gray). During a spoiling session, you can ask to receive whatever you desire from your partner, which might look like massage, oral sex, compliments, cuddles, or a combination of all. Your sexuality and desires are unique, so you get to decide. Whoever received can give next and it becomes a beautiful feast of pleasure and connection!
3.) If your partner has a behaviour that you find upsetting, try to communicate a clear request and why it matters to you. For example, if you’re frustrated about doing the laundry or not getting enough sexual attention, you can ask “Would you mind to do the laundry we have right now? I’m feeling really tired and it would make me feel so supported. Or “Could you tell me what you find sexy about me while hugging and kissing me? It’d make me feel so loved and remind me that you are still attracted to me”.
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